If your loved one has a terminal illness, knowing death is near can be hard to process. Understanding the end-of-life stages can help you better understand their journey and how you can best support them through each stage.
The transformation that occurs at the end of life is similar to that of a caterpillar to a butterfly. Learn more about the unique physical, mental and emotional signs of each transformational stage below.
It’s common for many people to move through life focused on daily tasks and rushing through schedules, meals and appointments. Acknowledging a terminal diagnosis causes us to pause and go back to the basics.
In this stage, your loved one is focused on survival, growth, consumption and managing basic needs. This stage gives caregivers time to focus and prepare, while also giving time and attention to your loved one’s needs.
Signs of death: 1-3 months before
- Physical: Fatigued; loss of appetite; preference for liquids; unable to tolerate strong smells or odors
- Mental: More aware of limitations and declining health; confusion; self-centeredness; begins discussing finances, wills or other plans
- Emotional: Denial or anger about diagnosis; withdrawal; reminiscing on favorite memories; desire more touch and caring
During this stage, your loved one builds a sheltered, safe location called a chrysalis. This creates a protective cover for where their transformation will take place.
It’s common for those facing a terminal illness to focus on resolution during this stage. Be open and inviting to these discussions with your loved one if you begin to notice these signs.
Signs of death: 1-2 weeks before
- Physical: Difficulty waking-up or keeping eyes open; changes in skin temperature; lack of appetite; restless or agitated; picking at bedding, clothing or the air
- Mental: Difficulty concentrating; confusion; difficulty recognizing friends or family; regressing to an earlier time; asking if they are dying
- Emotional: Having more spiritual questions; wanting to say goodbye to family and friends; openly speaking about death; expressing fear about dying; speaking to people who have already passed; vivid dreams
In the final end-of-life stage, your loved one requires rest and energy before it can emerge from the chrysalis. They are focused on releasing and letting go.
It is important for family and friends to provide words of comfort, reassurance and most importantly, permission to let go during this stage.
Signs of death: 2 days – a few hours before
- Physical: increased energy or clarity; increased appetite; changes to skin color; holding eyes half open but fixated; changes in blood pressure and pulse
- Mental: awareness of surge of energy; desire to have conversations with loved ones OR non-responsive to communication attempts; unable to talk
- Emotional: desire to say goodbye; using travel phrases (“I need to get going” or “It’s time for me to go home”); talking about the light, a tunnel or angels; talking about early life
Free at last, the butterfly emerges, spreads their wings and flies. Grief and sadness are a normal part of grieving, but allow the image of a butterfly to comfort you as you remember their journey.
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